We all experience the same physical feelings. It’s what we do with these feelings and how we build on them that will ultimately create the outcome.
For instance. My identical twin sister and I are lining up to go for a ride on a roller coaster. Standing there I have butterflies in my stomach. I look over at my sis and recognize that she is feeling nervous as well. These butterflies start to flap harder and harder as the line moves on and we get closer to our turn.
“Oh man….” I say to my sister, “This is so exciting – it’s gonna be so awesome! I can’t wait to go on!”
My sister looks hopelessly at me … “Marnz – I don’t know if I can do this… I’m scared shitless, listen to all the screaming, it doesn’t sound like fun. I don’t think I can do it.”
I try to convince her “What are you talking about Nits? This is going to be so much fun!!! Look at everyone getting off the ride. They love it! C’mon Nits – you can do it – just hang in there, it will all be worth it.”
So, whilst I’m busy turning my butterflies into feelings of excitement my sister is busy turning her butterflies into feelings of fear.
The initial feeling for both of us was the same. The feeling you get in your stomach starts to grow the moment you decide to go on that ride and it escalates to the point where you’re either strapped in and ready and excited to go or you’re left standing on the side lines, fearful and watching.
I made the conscious decision as soon as I felt my very first flutter to be excited; my sister chose to feel fear.
So – what does this mean?
We can harness our physiological responses to either work for us, or to work against us.
The next time you physically feel a negative emotion, be it fear, anxiety, loneliness – whatever it is, think it into a positive state and it will be so. Turn fear into courage, anxiety into calm, loneliness into time alone and ride the roller coaster of life on your terms and not on the whim of your physical self.